Underwear and the ADHD brain: Star Trek The awakening

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(The unmedicated ADHD brain upon awakening works like this. Here’s the dialogue)

Captain ‘s log, Stardate 2013, strange circumstances have occurred with tight fitting Calvin Klein underwear. While the situation was critical, I commended to the crew:

“what’s the time?”

……

“Underwear”

“Mmmmm f€¥ck…..Celvin Klein”

…..

Mmmm roomy. !

Red alert from Engineering!, “Captain, we’ve too much room in the front , and a “Y” anomaly at the back”

“Gusset !”

“aye Captain, ye be right I”d say”. “I’ve just ran the sensor around the rear, and I swear there’s a definite “Time-space Y-anomaly back there!

“Scottie! Reroute gusset to the front immediately!

“Engineering to the bridge!”

” Go ahead Mr. Scott”

“Captain that’s got us out of trouble for now, dunno how much longer she will take it, but you should be feelin a wee bit more support at the front!

“Thank you Mr. Scott, all bits of the Enterprise are now back to normal

“Bones to Jim”

“Yes Bones go ahead.

“Jim! take you’re medication, or I’ll have no other choice but to beam you to Sick-Bay”

“Bones there’s no TP man!

” God damn Jim! I’m a Doctor not an ass wiping nurse maid!

” Captain according to my calculations, human emotion is dis-regulated,
and logic would suggest taking the Doctor’s advice, and finding alternative ass wiping technology”

“Acknowledged, Mr. spoke. Set a course for the ensuite toilet galaxy. ”
” Engage warp 9, and have medical stimulant’s replicated there.

Captain’s log. We will continue on our current course. James T. Phdbutadhd

“….End of log entry….”

The moment of ice-cream.

 Why kids matter. Think quick, think again, no your best nothing more, nothing less…

AN ICE-CREAM MOMENT      

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For 2 years I was banished to an under construction building behind my family home. I was banned from visiting Japan. I travelled 12,000miles across the USA to find a new life for my family. That didn’t work. I worked hard to gather enough money to provide a new house for my family, my partner backed out if the agreement after I just started to move in. Now I’m confronted with obstacles with a no access policy to my house and can’t meet the financial costs of the new house.

It was to be a place of love, learning, the pursuit of joy through knowledge and creativity. Time to move on with the shirt on my back, a couple of laptops, and a song in my heart.
You’ll never walk alone

Prank War II: When someone puts a straw in the cup, “Boom!”

Here’s is Part II of my kid’s instructions for, “Prank War”. It appears that my daughter writes with an Italian accent. I’m thinking that perhaps Mussolini is her role model in all this. I will have to watch where I sit and avoid using drinking straws for a while 🙂

20 000 miles, a boat trip, and moped the floor

If you asked me what I did over the last 2 or so months, this is this answer:
I flew from the Southern Hemisphere to the USA, stopped in Hawaii, went on to Chicago, drove from Chicago to Kansas City, from Kansas to St. Louis, then onto Athens, Ohio, then north Columbus Ohio, then to streetsborough, then back down to Dayton and then north again…

On the way I had some struggles, some time to think, and a lot more time to think. When I got home my next challenge was to go to a Counselling session, find my GPS navigator and the cable to run the damn thing…had to get myself on a boat to see my kids for a day…got myself there and got myself back….

And then I mopped the floor…

Why? I wanted to find a new job, have something called “work life” balance (that don’t mean much to folks with ADHD…only if there’s less to balance 😉 and be with my kids and watch them have fun…we did have fun we grew some crystals with a chemistry set and played CB hide-n-seek with some cool transceivers I have…

So at the end on this day my journey has brought me to mopping the floor…You may ask what happened with the Job…well I haven’t got the right help to get that darn job ( and there’s a beauty just waiting for me to put in the right stuff for the application) …

If it’s going to be then the help I need will come…for now here’s my floor

Anniversary

Have you ever spent your wedding anniversary alone? Even when you had something planned, but couldn’t make it because your not as able as others?

This is how I’m spending my anniversary. No wife no children. I did my best to get to them and spend a holiday on a beautiful sub-tropical island. There is one consolation though, I called my wife and asked her if she and the kids are enjoying themselves. She said yes we’re having a great time.

I’m glad they are. And it goes to show that you don’t have to be together if one of you enjoys their anniversary without the other.

So this year is a sucky anniversary for me, but 3 others are enjoying themselves. That’s 1 sucky anniversary + 3 having a great anniversary which cancels out the negative 🙂

I hope they continue to have a great time and I’m waiting for some photos too!

Good things come to those who ask

I believe there is nothing more rewarding than being told that I have helped them in some way. Whatever it was that you did at the time is just something you do. It’s the outward expression of who you are. But to be told sometime later that whatever it was you did, gave them peace, understanding, or hope is sublime. I get overwhelmed with joy when some little thing I did had an impact on someone else’s life that despite what challenges lay ahead, their life just might be a little better, a little more joyous, a little more satisfying, a little more peaceful.

I had such an experience today. I was able to use my scholarly knowledge to point out to someone that things could be better and I’m pretty sure I know how and why….

I wept when I was first diagnosed with ADHD, but there is hope. In fact while ADHD might be the most impairing disorder in outpatient psychiatry, it is the most treatable. So why do I get a kick out of pointing out to someone, that perhaps they might have ADHD, and then they seek help and treatment? Because there is so much HOPE for folks like us.

So I always ask myself, can I do some good here? It is in such time that good things come to those who ask.

Home rules

Home at last, home at last. Here’s my wife’s new rules that are prerequisite to continuing our relationship:

1. I am the only person who needs to change of which I am solely responsible
2. No negative comments or any kind of criticism, constructive criticism or otherwise.
3. I must make more effort to understand how she feels. No request can be made for the same for me. This is impossible because she must protect herself.
4. When I am upset I must deal with it myself by removing myself from the home environment, or the kids will be effected
5. I must wait to be invited to engage in any conversations or family activities. My wife must focus solely on study and the children.
6. Despite my difficulties in self regulation I must make a greater effort to control those feelings.
7. I must study more on how to control myself and reduce relying on other people to assist me. They shouldn’t have to feel responsibility to help me.
8. I must not interrupt when being spoken to. My wife will decide if I am allowed the chance to voice my opinion.

Strict adherence to the above rules will make our relationship more intimate, rewarding and satisfying.

So this is my return-to-home challenge. Please wish me luck!

Hotels services and amenities “disability”

English: A collection of pictograms. Three of them used by the United States National Park Service. A package containing those three and all NPS symbols is available at the Open Icon Library (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Can you see my wheelchair?

i love to travel…that is i love new destinations…but getting there and back be it for work or play can surmount to more than just a series of minor challenges…

So when I know that journey will deplete my “fuel tank”, I let the hotel at the destination know I have a bit of a disability,  and let the hotel know what I need….

This time around I didn’t do the hard yard to let the hotel folk what I need, so all they had to go on was ” Disability”…

I had a bit of a chuckle with my current accommodations. Can you spot my “wheelchair”?

There are 2 important points to make here:

1. Public perception of the label “disabled” (hidden vs visible)

2. My lack of persistence in communicating what I need meant that hotel staff are confused , and I may have taken a room that someone else may have benefited from using.

But still a good example of how folks with hidden/invisible challenges and folks with visible challenges are perceive by default when the label “disability” is used…